I was recently talking to someone who really needed to start putting more effort into their job, and it got me thinking about the concept of how much effort is enough. I thought back to my dad, whom I both give credit to and blame for making me as competitive as I am. In my childhood, whether it was school or sports, he was always asking me, "Did you try your best?" As an adult, when I coached youth sports, I would ask the kids on my team this same question. When they invariably answered "yes," I would tell them that they then were winners. I did this for two reasons: one, I wanted them to try their hardest (heck, I wanted to win), and two, I wanted them to feel good about themselves and avoid measuring success solely based on whether our team won or lost.